Taking the big leap into real life
Finding matches online is not exactly rocket science. All you need is a great online dating profile and a willingness to make the first move every once in a while. The rubber meets the road when it comes time to decide when to move things offline. With all the internet dating horror stories going around, there is no denying the importance of taking this step delicately. Here are ten questions you should ask to determine whether meeting your match in real life will be a good idea.
Questions you need to ask before meeting in real life
What’s your full name?
Very many people online use pseudonyms or even nicknames for their protection. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this. However, when you decide to move things offline, you will need this important bit of information for your safety.
What made you interested in me?
Online dating epitomizes the idea of there being very many fish in the sea. While this question may seem cliché, it is sometimes good to know what made you stand out to them. It could be that killer smile or quirky bio description but either way, it helps you learn a lot about what your match is looking for.
Do you like your job?
Asking a question like this is a more subtle way to ask what the person does for a living without seeming materialistic. It also gives you an idea of whether or any work-related frustrations may end up being taken out on you.
What gives you the motivation to leave bed every morning?
There is no wrong answer here as it all depends on what your match is interested in or passionate about. Again the answer to this question is meant to let you learn more about the person.
Are you religious?
You also need to ask if you are either a devoutly religious person or a total non-believer. If it is something you feel passionately about it is better to get it out of the way as early as possible. Knowing early on is vital because it is one of those conversations that could break a relationship later on.
What are your views on premarital sex?
We live in a day and age where there are sorts of opinions on sexuality. Some people believe in exploring while others prefer to keep themselves for that special someone. This question is another one you need to get out of the way before you get too invested.
What exactly do you expect from this experience?
This question is important as an offline relationship can only work if you are both on the same page. Expectations vary with some people wanting a serious relationship and other desiring nothing more than casual hookups.
Are you interested in other people?
And we are right back to the many-fish-in-the-sea nature of online dating. It would be naïve of you to think that you are the only one your match is interested in. Before you go falling in love and planning your wedding, make sure that they are ready to be exclusive.
What is your ideal first date?
Arming yourself with this information turns out to be quite useful. The first date doesn’t exactly have to be the same as your love interests’ fantasy, but you can always find ways to get it close. It is also a great way to determine certain traits including outdoor vs. indoor nature and other specific interests.
Are you open to commitment?
There are two types of people on online dating platforms. The first is the hopeless romantics who cannot wait to settle down and start their happily ever after. Then there are the commitment-phobes who would rather keep playing the field. Whichever category it is you fall into, it is important to determine your match’s stand. The last thing you want is to find someone who you like that either isn’t ready to settle down or is trying to force you to commit.
These questions may not preempt all there is to know about your match, but they are a good place to start. You want to be sure that you are not exposing yourself to a nut job or someone who’s not looking for the same things you are. With this questions, you will be able to avoid wasting your time.