If you are looking for a head-start in your dating game with Ecuadorian guys, here’s a guide you should read first!
In my 10+ years of exploring South American countries, I’ve had a special time with Ecuadorian men. But, as I learned the hard way, everything that glitters is not gold!
So, in this article, I’m covering the following topics to prepare you before you get into the dating game with Ecuador guys:
- What are Ecuadorian people like?
- How do they perceive relationships?
- How and where to meet Ecuadorian guys?
- How to win them over?
What are Ecuadorian Men Like?
Though every individual is different, I have to say I rarely found a chivalry-filled, classy gentleman who would open the doors and treat you like a queen.
Here are a few things to keep in mind about their personality:
Ecuador men are hot
Their looks will make you go weak in the knees. They might not be the tallest men in the world, but their tanned skin tone and passionate brown eyes more than make up for it. I’d give them extra brownie points for their exercise regime that helps keep them in shape.
Their style is forgettable
On the other hand, I am not that big of a fan of their choice of clothes. The country is full of badly copied clothing brands that do not fit well. I think the flashy colors these men wear won’t appeal to most women unless you’re into experimenting and can ignore the fashion.
They are sincere and honest
That is one thing you can take for granted (almost!). When they are with you, Ecuadorian guys are very straightforward about who they are, their work, and what they think about the two of you being together.
They are proud, confident, and assertive
An Ecuadorian man knows what he wants and makes no bones about making it clear. They are proud of who they are despite the good and the not-so-good aspects of their character. They’re never short of confidence and enthusiasm.
They like to flirt
Single men seldom hold back when it comes to charming women they like. So if you spot a hot guy at a public place, give him a subtle hint, and you’ll find him gesturing around and hitting on you in no time.
Though I initially liked these little gestures, I started getting many unwanted ones and have preferred keeping a low key ever since.
Loyalty doesn’t top their list
That is the bad part of them making the first move – many guys keep making it even if they already have a girlfriend!
There is a good chance your Ecuadorian boyfriend will keep hitting on pretty faces whenever he can. Shockingly enough, he might not even try to keep it from you!
They have an element of machismo
This is one part I never like, but it comes with the package. Ecuadorian men go overboard with possessiveness, and catcalls are common in public places. Though it does make them protective, I hate the part when they try to dictate anything and everything a woman does.
Ecuadorian Men and Relationships
If I had to summarize my entire experience of dating an Ecuadorian man into a few words, these words would be:
- sexually driven
Before you get turned off by it, let me quickly add that all these are driven by honesty and bravado, making them a seductive package. Here is a list of what to expect while dating an Ecuadorian man:
They are sweet talkers
They are sweet talkers and would go to any length to convince you how you mean the world to them. They are not the ones to hold back their emotions and can get cheesy early, even before you start dating.
They often date for elevated social status
Do not get swayed by all the sweet talk, though. I had experiences where men would date me (a gringa or cat as women with light-colored eyes are known) to show me off to their friends. It is supposed to elevate their social status, and you might well be shown around like a trophy in your relationship.
They’re high on sex
Ecuadorian men see sex as an essential tool to boost their masculinity. On the one hand, the physical aspect of your relationship will never have a dull moment. On the other hand, it can be overkill, and he might have trouble understanding when you’re not in the mood.
The Pros and Cons of Dating Ecuadorian Men
Here are the pros and cons of dating an Ecuadorian man:
Pro – They’re Straightforward About What They Think
Ecuadorian men will never beat around the bush or try to hide how they feel. Even if he may not be able to process his emotions most maturely all the time, he’ll never hide from you how he truly thinks. So regardless of whether he’s happy or upset, you’ll know, and you’ll know why.
Pro – You’ll Experience True Passion
‘Passionate’ is perhaps the best single word to describe Ecuadorian men. Both in and out of the bedroom, Ecuadorian men flourish with their passionate ways through the way they speak, dance, and move. This adds a whole new level of excitement to the relationship because there’s hardly ever a dull moment to experience with him.
Pro – He’ll Never Run Out of Ideas on What to Do
Ecuadorian men will never be dependent on you for ideas on what to do for the day. Sure, he may ask you if you have any ideas or a preference, but he’ll always have ideas of his own too.
Pro – He’ll Lead the Way
Coming up with ideas on what to do is just one way he’ll take the reins and lead the way in a relationship. Beyond that, he’ll be the one to approach you in the first place if you catch his eye. He’ll take you out on the dance floor and ask questions (or make nice compliments) to steer the conversation.
Con – He Can Be Emotionally Immature
As noted prior, he can get emotional quite easily. On the one hand, he’ll tell you exactly how he feels so there is no ambiguity about what’s going on. But on the other hand, he may get angry or upset very easily over situations that you feel don’t warrant the level of anger or irritation that he expresses.
Con – You May Not Be His Only Woman
There’s a common stereotype that Latin American men (including Ecuadorians) like to flirt with many women. And while it does depend on the man, there’s a reason why this stereotype exists. So long as the two of you are casually dating, chances are very good you won’t be the only woman he’s going out with.
How to Meet Ecuadorian Men?
Online Dating in Ecuador
I like to do a bit of groundwork early, so I took the online route a few days before my travel. I was pleasantly surprised to see the dating pool there is pretty big.
Though there are plenty of South American dating sites, AmoLatina.com and Tinder are the ones that got me a high percentage of genuine profiles.
One word of advice, though – you do not want to play hard to get for too long. Ecuadorian men are impulsive, and they want to get straight into it rather than having long conversations from miles away.
Visiting Public Places around Ecuador
Most Ecuadorian cities that tourists frequent have a thriving night culture. There is a Zona Rosa where bars, pubs, discs, and restaurants are concentrated. Sunday to Wednesday is relatively dull, but you can always ask the locals and find happening places throughout the week.
You need not worry much about dressing up either, as jeans, t-shirts, and sneakers would serve you just fine. Expectedly, Ecuadorian women tend to dress up a notch higher than men.
Quito is the best option for foreigners as it offers everything you need when you’re out at night, i.e., bars, clubs, pubs, a good atmosphere, and security.
Bungalow 6 is one of the most popular dance clubs that attract international and locals, primarily playing Latin and international hits.
Irish pub Finn McCool is another place I liked, especially if you are into sports events and live music.
Dirty Sanchez (art, culture, and drinks), Salsoteca Lavoe (dance salsa), and La Juliana are other options to check out.
Cuenca’s Zona Rosa is located within walking distance from the city’s historic center, along Calle Larga.
Discoteca Nidia Fuzzion Party, Paris Lounge & Bar, Banos, and Montanita are bars with an international vibe. Once you are in the city, all you need to do is follow the music, and you’ll reach where the action is.
ONE THING TO NOTE
As a white woman in Ecuador, you’ll receive lots of attention and catcalls. It’s just the way things are.
As mentioned previously, Ecuadorian men tend to flirt with many women. This is partly because of the machismo culture and the role of the Catholic church in the country, where men naturally act tough, assertive, and masculine (note this is common in South America and not exclusive to Ecuador).
When dating casually, this means you likely won’t be the only woman he’s seeing. But even when you’re not dating or walking down the sidewalk with a man in Ecuador yet, be prepared to become the subject of whistling, repeated questions of “are you single?” by men in the street or on the bus, and multiple men who approach you throughout the day.
After a while, it may start to become a little obnoxious, so be aware of this before you enter the country.
How to Conquer an Ecuadorian Man’s Heart?
Now that you know how Ecuadorian men are and where to find them, it’s time to take it to the next level and make him go mad about you.
Here are a few things that have worked for me in the past:
Maintain eye contact
As Ecuador men are honest and straightforward, the least you can do is mirror their behavior. When you are with him, stay focused on him, and you will find a synergy that will communicate more than just words.
Cook for him
Isn’t it the key to a man’s heart irrespective of nationality? Other than the food, they like a cup of coffee in bed, especially in the mornings and evenings.
Learn basic Spanish
Talking to a man in his native language goes a long way in breaking the ice. It also conveys you are taking an extra step to make your relationship work.
Putting it all together
Ecuadorian men are a fun package to date if you play it right. I would recommend trying out online and offline options and sticking to the popular cities and well-known hangout places.
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