Tips for Gays: How to Build Online Relationships in the Modern World

Looking for love can sometimes seem a daunting prospect, especially if you’ve been single for any length of time and consider yourself to be ‘out of practice.’ The good news for you is the solution for future happiness is a lot closer than you might think – thanks to modern technology, it lies right at your fingertips. The first aspect of this bold adventure to take on board is how flexible and relaxing it can be.

There are gay dating websites you can settle into browsing with your laptop while enjoying a latte at your favorite coffee shop. And here are wonderful apps to download from your usual app store and then carry around.

Make the Most of Digital Matching


Many gay dudes have a particular club or bar they enjoy hanging out in, but it can get boring bumping into the same old faces. Also, you have no real way of knowing the motives of the singles you start chatting to. What are they looking for in a partner? Are they into casual flings or something more meaningful? But if you join a dating site or app, you’ll be able to take advantage of a raft of useful tools. Maybe you’re hesitant when it comes to flirting with prospective partners. This is where online dating can be a fantastic way to arrange a gay hook up. The other dudes you’ll come across in this environment will have uploaded their profiles for the same reason. They’ll be keen to commit to a like-minded individual. Algorithms built into these platforms will also help to steer you toward those site users who would appear to be most compatible based on the likes/dislikes you’ve stated during the application process.

Keep Ahead of the Game

Here’s another important tip when it comes to building a successful gay partnership. Getting hooked up is the straightforward part, as it’s so easily done after exchanging direct messages and developing a rapport. After you’ve ‘clicked,’ you should always look for ways to keep things interesting. The worst thing that can happen is complacency: settling into a routine of taking each other for granted. It’s easy to pick up advice about the do’s and don’ts of any romance – applying these simple rules will ensure your relationship stays fresh.

Plan Ahead

There are so many activities you’ll be able to enjoy with a new partner. In the initial stages of any courtship, you can have so much fun getting to know each other’s unique tastes. Learning what this guy loves doing in his spare time will inspire you, too. There might be hobbies you’ve never considered before, but which will strengthen your bond. If either of you is shy, embarking on a romantic journey can seem daunting, but shared activities can be a fabulous way of breaking the ice.

The Secrets of Gay Matchmaking

Highlighting the convenience and flexibility of gay dating sites and apps is one thing. But once you’ve joined a service and gone through the registration process, what happens next? Something you’ll require is a strong profile. Remember, gay digital dating has become huge, with upwards of one-in-three same-sex relationships likely to have been instigated via web platforms. This means you’ll be entering a competitive marketplace. In short, you’ll need to stand out from the crowd. Single gays can be a fickle bunch, so if they alight on a page that doesn’t immediately grab their attention, they’ll swiftly move on. Here are some golden nuggets of advice: –

  • Keep your descriptions succinct and on-point. Nobody will appreciate having to plow through screeds of info about your preferences or achievements.
  • Choose a memorable profile photo. Forget grabbing a screenshot from your social media just because you like a certain image. Take time to compose an eye-catching portrait. Have a friend capture this, framing it well, ensuring there are no background distractions, and preferably snapped with a good-quality camera.
  • Remember to smile and appear inviting. You don’t want the first image anyone sees of you to look like a police mugshot!

Conversation Tips

One reason for the phenomenal success of online dating in the 21st century has been the streamlined communication processes available. Most of us are already familiar with emailing or texting. There are billions of cellphone users across the world, so what better way to engage in conversation with a prospective gay partner than digitally? There are many options available. Direct messaging. Joining WhatsApp groups. Dipping into male-only chat rooms. Video chatting. However you feel most comfortable conversing with single gays, just go for it. To help boost your confidence, it might be worth taking further pointers on board.

  • Find things to talk about what you have in common. It’s easy enough to establish a rapport with other singles – you can use search forms to seek out guys with similar tastes.
  • Always be polite and charming when you’re in the online environment. Gay dating sites can be so much more than platforms where kindred spirits can look for love. They have become social hubs. Singles will gravitate to these dating services because they know they’ll always find a welcoming community waiting for them. Word of any members who are rude or anti-social will quickly spread. So, your default positions should be courtesy and honesty.
  • Inject your communications with humor. Try not taking yourself too seriously – people respond to other site users who are self-deprecating and prepared to laugh at their shortcomings!

Finally, always remember gay relationships are fun. You can get too hung up on online matching, particularly if someone you are interested in suddenly disappears from your radar and you end up being ghosted. Keep things in perspective. It’s their loss. If someone wasn’t right for you, then there will always be far better options. One thing is guaranteed, once you start flexing your dating muscles by flirting online, you’ll find yourself spoiled for choice. So, what are you waiting for? Get yourself out there!

josh author and dating coach at virtually single online