We can’t escape the fact that many aspects of our lives get their digital form. So does love.
Many create dating profiles on social media in hopes of finding true love. Like with finding a job or shopping, the internet can also help find your soul mate.
Now, online dating can be a lot of fun and super fulfilling, but there are certain rules you need to follow if you wish to reap these benefits. And the same applies to offline dating.
I’m not talking about the signup rules and confidentiality policies that the website sets. It is more about the unspoken code of conduct that others expect you to follow when looking for love.
Here are 19 unwritten dating rules (both online and offline) that you cannot afford to ignore.
9 Rules of Dating Online
Don’t toot your own horn too loud
It is nice that you have a penthouse, a six-figure salary, and so forth. But no one likes a bragger. It is also important to avoid faking humility. The best thing to do is to find subtle and natural ways to bring up your achievements in your conversations.
A profile is only as good as the photos used
One of the most important modern dating rules you cannot afford to break is uploading a photo to your online dating profile.
No one will trust you if they cannot put a face to the suitor!
The photo for your dating profile needs to be carefully selected. Find something that is both flattering and doesn’t seem unrealistic, and you should be good to go.
Do not be a cliché in any way
Remember that the girl or guy you are interested in has plenty of other options to consider. So you want to make sure that everything from your profile bio to your very first text or email makes you stand out.
NO ONE wants to see you naked
It is tacky and makes you seem like you are trying too hard. That is the case mainly with profile photos. It is okay to show off those abs or that bikini body you work so hard for. However, shirtless photos and booty shots are the quickest way to ward off any serious potential beaux.
Always deal with your demons before signing up
Trust me, your online dates did not sign up to help you carry your baggage. Whether it is depression or a toxic past relationship, do your best to accept your past before moving on.
No one has time for games
Playing hard to get or being evasive is not cute. Seriously, no one has time for that. Just be straightforward if you like someone or if you feel that there is no chance.
There is such a thing as too much information
You are talking to a complete stranger online, so there is no reason for you to divulge sensitive information. That covers everything from financial information and physical address details to deep dark secrets from your past. Save this for when he or she has truly earned your trust offline.
There is life outside the online world – try it
If you fall, get up and try again
The most important rule of dating online is – never give up! Have faith in the process, and you will find your happily ever after.
6 Rules for the First Few Dates
Stepping into the dating scene may sound all fun and exciting, but, sometimes, we do tend to complicate things unnecessarily. It might be stressful, yet, you can still turn it into a fulfilling experience only if you knew how to date ‘right.’
Although no rule fits all, there are still some dating guidelines you’d want to follow if you’re looking forward to a successful date.
Wear appropriate clothes
Avoid the mistake of wearing something that doesn’t define you. The point is to be yourself and feel comfortable on your date.
Of course, put some effort into it and be presentable. Your match will definitely appreciate the time you took to look good for them!
However, don’t try to be someone you’re not. Trust is built upon seemingly the shallowest of things.
Be smart about the location
Believe it or not, but location may make or break a date. If you have just started dating this person and you want to get to know them as much as possible, going to the cinema might not be the thing to do.
Sitting next to each other in silence for two hours may build some awkward energies and won’t tell you much about your match. Cinema comes later when you know each other better.
The first few dates should also be in a public place, just to stay safe.
Don’t be late
First impressions are everything! Not knowing your date puts enough pressure already, so don’t put them in an awkward situation where they’ll have to wait for you alone in a restaurant. Show some class and respect their time.
Keep your phone on silent
One of the most basic rules for dating is – don’t be rude to your date.
And nothing is more rude than ignoring present company to scroll on your phone non-stop. It doesn’t matter if you are on date 1 or 10 – do not take out your phone!
You want to enjoy your time together, not make the other person feel as if what they are saying isn’t important or interesting to hear. Of course, you can take important calls, but don’t exchange GIFs with your bestie.
Be ready to pay
The fight for equality of the sexes killed the rule that men should solely pay for first dates. Bring your wallet and be ready to pay or at least split the bill.
That said, don’t start a “war” over who’s got it covered in the middle of a restaurant. If your date insists on paying, politely accept and offer to pay next time.
Remember what dating is about
It’s about having fun and getting to know the other person – it’s not a job interview! And it’s not going to decide whether you will spend life together.
Enjoy yourself learning about this new person, and don’t stress about whether they are ‘The One.’
Don’t string anyone along
Remember, just because you’re not in a committed relationship doesn’t mean you can play with people’s feelings. If you’re not sure someone’s a great fit, let them know!
It’s better for them to know you don’t see a future together than to be dragged along for a while. After all, nobody likes wasting time when it comes to matters of love and romance.
Cutting all communication with someone you’ve been seeing for a while without any rhyme or reason will give you a bad reputation. Even if that’s the worst date you have ever been on, be the gentleman/lady you are and part ways in a decent manner.
Facing awkward situations head-on speaks volumes of your level of maturity. As an adult, you should know that showing kindness is a sign of high emotional intelligence. Level up!
You don’t owe anyone anything
You will receive a lot of attention when you start online dating, and this is new to most people. Just remember that you do not have to entertain everyone who reaches out.
If you get a DM from a random person, it’s okay not to reply. And there is nothing wrong with ignoring that email or turning down a date invite if you’re not interested.
It’s not the politest thing to do, but at least you won’t waste your time chitchatting with a stranger.
Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not
Getting in the role of someone completely different from what you are will do more damage than good. Dating someone should tell you if the two of you are a good match. You shouldn’t force chemistry by making up things that aren’t true. Under promise and overachieve, even when it comes to dating!
Summing It Up
Dating has never been more open and flexible than nowadays, but there are still some golden rules we should all stick to.
Give a good thought to what you are looking for in a date and what you can offer in turn. Before you are off to meeting someone new, make sure you have met yourself on a deeper level first.